I'm hardly the one to offer advice, but are you giving slack as soon as the kite starts coming back from the pancake?
Ahhhh. Give slack rather than just yanking and yanking: I never tried that. It even seems to make some kind of logical sense - thanks a lot. And to others for the animations/ suggestions.
Someone here will be more than willing to give you advice but the first thing they'll ask is...
What kite you flying?
Did a "Best kite for beginner" search in google and bought an E3, mainly for the video that came with it (which turned out to be cheesy to say the least). My main aim was to know that the kite wasn't to blame for my incompetence - Only LATER did I find this forum where the general view seems to be that Prism are to blame for everything - probably my incompetence included.